I’ve been nominated for the Sunshine Award! Yay! I have to confess I had no idea what that was – being pretty green at all things bloggy – and it took me a minute to figure it out. It kind of reminds me of the old chain letters you used to get. Yes, I’m old enough to remember chain LETTERS, none of this email-this-to-100-people-or-your-cat-will-die crap. I’m talking mail a pair of panties to 9 friends and you’ll get 200 pairs of panties in the mail. I never actually did that because it was a lot of postage, and I felt weird getting panties in the mail from strangers. Also, really, who needs 200 pairs of panties? But this I will do, because it means that A Calm Persistence believes that I am a writer who brightens other people’s days – which is amazing and awesome. Especially since I write pretty honestly about some pretty dark things on here. I think we all need each other in this journey, and sometimes the honesty perhaps shines a light in the dark. And if there’s any kind of silver lining in this process, it’s thinking that your going through it might then help you carry the burden with someone else a few steps of the way. To be told something like this brings a little ray of redemption into the whole thing, and that is pretty wonderful. And if I can help introduce you to some of the brave women who have been helping me along the way, then I welcome that opportunity.
Incidentally, you should read A Calm Persistence‘s blog. Here is one good reason why:
See what I mean about we need each other? Ok. Down to business. This is my first ever award and I’m determined not to mess it up.
The rules are:
Include the Sunshine Award icon in your post – done!
Link to the blogger who nominated you – check!
Answer 10 questions about yourself – see below
Nominate 10 other bloggers to receive the award – ibid
Make up 10 questions that are super long and/or annoying to answer (ok, I invented that rule) – check!
Link to your nominees and let them know you nominated them. – part 1 done and part 2 will do once I publish this – whew!
Ok – here are the questions I need to answer:
1. Why do you Blog?
I started blogging as an outlet for myself in the TTC process. I typically journal to sort out my thoughts, but I thought perhaps if I did an anonymous blog, maybe someone else dealing with the same things might come across it and find it helpful. At the time I had no idea there was a whole community out there. Connecting through this medium with others on this journey has been an amazing resource and encouragement for me.
2. What are you most proud of?
Honestly, I know it sounds kind of pathetic, but at this point I’m just proud that I’m keeping on keeping on. It’s been a rough few years, but stuff like this teaches you a lot about yourself. One of my favorite quotes is “a crisis is a terrible thing to waste,” and my hope in all of this is that it will not be wasted but that somehow I will manage to stop wrestling God long enough to allow him to use this to shape me into a sturdier, kinder me.
3. What is one thing you want to learn how to do?
Dive. I’ve always had trouble with getting inverted (flips, dives, cartwheels, what have you). I’m an avid swimmer – goggles, swim cap, the whole 9 yards, but I’ve never learned to dive and am now at the point where it’s just embarrassing. (As one gets older, it turns out, one really finds fewer and fewer scenarios in which bellyflopping and cannonballing are considered acceptable methods of entering a pool.)
4. If you could have any super power, what would it be?
Only less kill-everybody-and-start-world-war-III and more visit-my-family-whenever-I-want-and-have-dinner-in-Istanbul-tonight. Also, it opens up several career paths: search and rescue, crime fighting, crime, transportation-for-hire, smuggler, coyote, etc.
5. What is your best piece of advice?
Be kind to yourself.
6. If you had a million dollars, what would you do with it?
I aspire to do what my totally inspiring in-laws have done with their money: pick a just standard of living and stick to it. Then continue to work hard and invest wisely so that you can give extravagantly.
7. What is your favorite season? Why?
Summertime! Sun on my skin, bra-optional sundresses. (Don’t worry, I’m pretty flat-chested.)
8. What is your all time favorite meal?
First date with my now-husband. He took me out to a 5-star French restaurant in San Francisco. Neither of us had ever eaten a meal like that before (it involved pear soup with african peppercorns, a quail, a souffle, and chocolate mousse to end your very life). The food, the conversation – and, doubtless, the swirling pheromones, made it the meal of a lifetime.
9. What is your favorite song?
Right now? Probably this one. It’s kind of been my anthem in my TTC process:
10. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
Well, when it comes down to it, I guess we could live almost anywhere in the world, but we live where we live (Vancouver), so I guess the question then is why. I mean, it’s very pretty and nice, but it’s also rainy and expensive. I think the thing that keeps us here is the community. There are just some seriously cool people around here. And they seem to have time to hang out, whereas in San Francisco, we had to book 3 months in advance to do anything with anybody. Also, he’s got family nearby.
Ok, next step: As many of us do, I follow a lot of wonderful blogs, and these are just a few of them. These all happen to be women working to build their families – most are trying to conceive, some have adopted, some are redefining what family means to them. All are honest, brave and human. These blogs have encouraged me, helped me feel less isolated and crazy, and have inspired me.
Here, in no particular order, are my nominees:
And here are my questions to you:
1. Why did you start blogging and why do you blog now?
2. If you were running for President (or Prime Minister or whatever your head of state is) what would your platform be? (Not trying to make this political…but wondering what social issues matter to you most.)
3. Of all the places you’ve been, which one would you like to return to? Why?
4. If you could go back in time to the beginning of your TTC journey and tell yourself one thing, what would it be?
5. If you were being interrogated by the CIA (or the KGB or MI6 or whatever your country’s scary secret police is…in my country it’s the Royal Canadian Mounted Police, I guess, which is just so Canada…our scary cops wear cute outfits and ride horses) what song would they need to play over and over to break you?
6. Any random hidden talents?
7. One of your top 5 quotes ever? (Because I always find it hard to pick my #1 of anything.)
8. What’s your proudest moment before the age of 10?
9. Best fictional book you’ve ever read (or one of your top 5):
10. What question do you wish I had asked you?
Play along if you like!